Life Lesson – start being the person you want to be now

 Are you living the life you want to live? Do you have the job you want? Do you have the relationship you want? How about the body you want? House you want? Friends you want?

People are terrible for looking at others and wishing their lives resembled someone else’s in some way.

Admit it you have looked at someone and thought that that person has a great life or is in a fantastic situation and you would love to have a piece of that. Am I right? I think I am. I am no different than you in that I have done it before myself. One thing that differentiates you and I is that I know that if you want something in life you have to make a plan and figure out how you are going to achieve it.

It is so completely obvious to figure out how to get what you want yet most people don’t see it.

That is why I wrote this Hub because I want you to make the best of your life and give you some easy to follow advice and guidance that will hopefully help you in achieving what it is you desire.

 The thing about life and getting what you want is that you have to go and get it and do what is necessary to get it. Just sitting there wishing you had this or looked like this just doesn’t happen. It takes work and dedication to get there and achieve your dreams no matter how small or big they are.

Let’s look at a couple of scenarios and see just how easy it is to figure out what action you should take to get what you want.

You see someone obviously with their life together. Well groomed and dressed, chest out chin up full of confidence walking with their brief case possibly chatting with some colleagues as he/she walks into their office building.

That person looked so happy and successful energetic and confident. You want a piece of their pie in the worst way. So where do you start? Well first thing you need to figure out is are you happy with your current job or would a new job with a higher salary and new challenges fill your need a bit better?

So once you have decided on your dream job you need to find out what is required to snag that position. Do you need to take some classes? Any human resources office would be more than happy to let you know what schooling is required for a position in their establishment.

Possibly all you need to do is polish up that dusty old resume and take that first step and apply on some positions you think you might enjoy. 

Now you need to do something about your wardrobe. I suggest going to a clothing store that sells clothing for the position you are hunting for now. Spend some money because clothing really does make the man/woman.

A well dressed person always comes across as more confident. Dress for the life you want to live not the one you are currently living. Now you need some confidence and possibly some people skills.

There are many books available that can help you with these. Self help books are very valuable tool in your search for your new life.   

You see a beautiful woman or handsome man with a buff body, cool clothes and you are so attracted to that person and you think that you would love a chance to have a relationship with them.

They look like someone you would want to spend time with and get to know. But that person for some reason does not want to give you the time of day. Why?

My first question to you would be what do you have to offer them? Now you are probably thinking that what you have to offer is the fact that you are a kind and honourable person, you would never steer them wrong, right?

Well my friend the fact is that your kindness and being honourable doesn’t show through. Those traits are something that someone has to actually know you to find out about.

When you see that awesome person what stands out that attracts you to them? Their clothes, body, maybe car and probably whatever it is that they are doing just seems like fun.

As much as it sucks the reality in life is that you have to have something that the person you are attracted to wants in a partner or you don’t have a hope in hell in getting anywhere with them.  

The solution here is similar to scenario #1. First impressions are everything so get your head out of the sand and start impressing. I guarantee you won’t be disappointed.

So the person you are hot for or fantasize about has a buff body and you are wondering if you can get by with being kind and a belly with love handles, pencil arms and peg legs.

The answer is NO! Or how about HELL NO! if you want someone who takes great care and pride in how physically fit they are then you better get your ass moving and get yourself a gym membership and transform your body into one that people will be impressed by and that the person of your dreams will stop to take a look at.

Another very real scenario is the person you are after seems to have very nice material things like a new car, well tailored clothes etc. guess what? If that person is into those things you better start getting into those things.

If you cannot afford a new car then clean up the one you own. Same with your clothes, possibly it is time to start shopping and update your wardrobe.

The best way to explain what I am trying to teach you is that, are you ready? Ok here it is.

Birds of a feather flock together. That is it if you want to fly with a particular flock then you better become a bird that will be accepted into that flock.

Once you are flying with that flock then your great qualities like kindness, caring, giving, honour etc will show and that my friend will just improve your stock value that much more.

Whether you are male or female this applies to everyone in life whether you like it or not. If you don’t like it and refuse to take part then step aside. 

Don’t expect to get that girl or guy of your dreams if you don’t do something to get their interest. Don’t expect to have your dream job just given to you unless you make yourself the perfect candidate for the position.